He said he likes you. He finally got the courage to confess his feeling for you. After months of just admiring you from afar he made a decision to bring it to the next level and court you. You were speechless, you felt the whole world stop and stare for a while. Then, you start to feel butterflies in your stomach. You’re ecstatic about his confessions but don’t be in a haste to say “yes” to courtship. Before you give your sweet approval, take a look at the 6 Test of Love:
1. Test of Intentions
Why does he like you? Know his true intentions by putting him under the scrutiny of your family and friends so it will become more crystal clear. Let him spend time and enjoy a Q&A portion with them. A man who truly loves you will try to win the favor of your family and the people important to you. Take heed of the advice of those people who genuinely love you before this man even came into the picture. Without counsel plans fail, but with many advisers they succeed. (Proverbs 15:22) If you’re sure that his intentions to you are good pleasing and perfect then say “yes”.
2. Test of Space
We developed a special liking to someone whom we usually spend time with because we get to see them every day; we have casual conversation with them and we have the chance to examine their life closely. But the heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure. Who can understand it? (Jeremiah 17:9) Watch over your heart with all diligence, for from it flows the springs of life (Proverbs 4:23). Give yourself a space, test your feeling, increase your social circle, and meet new people. Test if it’s still him you like amidst the crowd.
3. Test of Time
Only time knows the true worth of love. Anything worth having is worth waiting for. And you’re worth the wait! You’re a once in a lifetime kind of woman. Let him wait so you will know if he will really persevere and will still continue to win your heart. It’s also the time for you to reflect if his really the man God prepared for you. Timing in love is everything. Ask yourself the million dollar question; Is it already the perfect time under God‘s calendar? If not, do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires (Song of Songs 2:7)
4. Test of Knowledge
How well do you know him? Do you have an idea what kind of family he has? What about his past? How many relationships did he have before you? What are his likes and dislikes? What principles govern his life? Would you still love him the same after you found out everything? Don’t hesitate to know him more because he is the man whom you will entrust your heart. Know the truth, and the truth will set you free (John 8:32). Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, and always perseveres (1 Corinthians 13:6-7).
5. Test of Maturity
Blessed is the man who walks not in the counsel of the wicked, nor stands in the way of sinners, nor sits in the seat of scoffers; but his delight is in the law of the Lord, and on his law he meditates day and night. He is like a tree planted by streams of water that yields its fruit in its season, and its leaf does not wither (Psalm 1:1-3). In all that he does, he prospers. Does he make the bible the final authority over his life? Does he walk uprightly before God despite the circumstances? Test his maturity by examining his decision making, how he handles difficult and challenging situation.
6. Test of Faithfulness
Does he love the Lord with all his heart and with all his soul and with all his strength and with all his mind? (Matthew 22:37) It’s a danger to fall in love to a man whose life is not fully surrendered to the Lord. Don’t be faithful to a man who is not even faithful to God. Choose a man who will bring you closer to God not to him because if not, no matter how ‘okay’ it will look like the ending will still be a broken and destroyed relationship. God is love, and love is God and without God you wont fully understand love.