Compromise

I was once asked by a friend if I will drink a glass of 100% pure distilled water. Without bothering to ask the logic behind her question I quickly answered ‘yes’. Then she rephrased her question and asked me again if I will then drink a glass of 99.9% pure distilled water with .01% poison. Without even thinking I promptly said NO (with surprised and annoyed expression).  I don’t think I got her point and I threw her my deadly glare (If only looks could kill). Even the most stupid person in the world knows the answer, who would dare to drink that water and die instantly. No matter how pure the water, it’s still contaminated.

Then she explained to me the sense behind that silly question. And truth be told that was the best lesson I have learned about compromise. Sometimes it’s okay to make ‘very little’ compromise because we always reason out that God will understand and it’s not too obvious for others to see. We let ourselves be 99% pure and 1% impure. But the truth will remain, you’re still contaminated. I am not suggesting that a Christian will not sin. The Bible clearly says, “If we say we say we have no sin, we deceive ourselves and the truth is not in us” (1 John 1:8). But there is a big difference between the person who sins, is sorry for it, and doesn’t want to keep doing it, and the person who continually, willfully, habitually sins over and over again and then says, “It is okay. God will forgive me.”

Wrong is wrong. Sin is sin. Immoral is immoral. We don’t need to sugarcoat it to look beautiful. This time, I’ll make a stand. I’d rather offend the world than offend God. It’s been quite a while now that we’re offending God, it’s now time let the world get offended.

In court, if you killed someone you can’t reason out that you only killed once and you did thousands of good deeds to be acquitted. Doing good things doesn’t remove the fact that you killed someone. In the same way, compromising the standards of God is also the same as turning your back to Him. You can’t say you follow God’s command, yet compromise with a single sin. That’s the truth in the Bible I know. And the purpose of TRUTH in the Bible is not to offend but to save and love.

P.S

For once I will say this since the issue has already gone viral and this is the last time I will comment on the issue. I support Manny Pacquaio, regardless of what you say I’m entitled to my opinion. Once and for all, I we dont condemned the LGBT community, we condemned the act. What I we hate is the sin and not the sinner. It’s been quite a while now that we’re offending God, it’s now time let the world get offended.

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Secrets to Long-lasting Friendship

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The memories of the good old day days came flooding back as I stepped in the gates of my Alma mater.  This place has witnessed blissful moments of my wonderful high school life, stories weaved together and are now written on the walls that I tried to relive in my mind thousand times, wishing to move back the hands of time bringing it back to life.

As I paced through the long, narrow pathway of a now old school, I noticed its very different now. I started to marvel the new image of my alma mater, trying to capture the changes that were made. Once there were fewer buildings and more trees but now there are more buildings and fewer trees. The rooms of different clubs and orgs were no longer on its original place-and the Newsroom that was once our home underwent a repair. It’s true indeed that change is the only thing constant in this world.

In this same small village school, I met my best friend. We were inseparable back then; savoring the moment of our youth, doing what we love to do and following our heart’s desire, dreaming of a brighter future where impossibility was just an unknown word. We’re partners in crime doing our crazy adventures. We’re each other’s no. 1 loyal supporter in our every endeavor. But as all good things must come to an end, the joy we had was only short lived when life confronted us of its harsh reality. We were forced to take our separate ways to follow our dreams. She wants to be a dentist, while I was firm to pursue my passion to be a soon Media practitioner. After taking one last glimpse, I left. For me, it was time to move on.

A decade had passed.  People just come and go, but once in a while, you meet someone who will be with you for life. She is a precious gem I’m glad I found.  A treasure I wouldn’t trade for anything or anyone. We stand the test of time, were miles apart but our friendship remains. Let me share the secret to long lasting friendship:

1. Allow your friend to explore the world

As you grow older you realized how small place you occupy in this world. Allow each other to discover endless possibilities and be expose in a bigger and tougher world outside the comfortable world you created. Don’t put your friend in a box for your own comfort and liking. Be happy for what ever path your friend has chosen.

2. Help each other to reach your fullest potential

Be joyful as your friend achieve great milestone. Continuously push your friend to his/her next level. Don’t let your friend live a life of a mediocrity. But you will constantly remind each other of the potential that needs to be awaken inside of you. Your friend’s success is also your success.

3. Understand that you can’t always be together

Your friend will not always be with you, there will come a time that friends move away because of family decision, job opportunities, school matter, and other reasons but that does not mean the friendship has to end. Different communication platforms were made to keep relationship open. This can still make the friendship meaningful and long lasting. And its not just about the quantity of time you spend together but more of the quality.

4. Be dependable and trustworthy

Everyone of us need a reliable friend in whom we can confide in, trust, and share some of the most personal details and needs of our lives. Be someone your friend can rely on, someone who will always be there in whatever season of life. Be the friend that you want to have.

5. Give each other ‘me time’

We all need our space from time to time. We need ‘me time’ to think and to examine one’s life. The time spent away from one another can help you to appreciate your friendship and the time you spend with one another. Space is important so you won’t get and over familiar with each other’s presence to the point that you take each other for granted.

6. Acknowledge that no relationship is perfect

If you want to have long lasting friendships be flexible and forgiving. Understand that no person or relationship is perfect. There will be times that you will feel disappointed because of unmet expectation, days that you feel like your friend is not doing the same effort as you do. It’s only part of your friendship journey. Its only give and take, forgive and forget.

7. Respect each other’s  differences

There’s beauty in diversity. My best friend is my complete opposite, we’re like water and oil, black and white, east and west but it doesn’t mean we don’t get along well. In fact, we compliment each other and our difference keep us together.

8. Make time for each other

Strive to be in your friend’s special moments for it only happen once  a year. Always be willing to make small sacrifices in your schedule. These small sacrifices help cement a stronger foundation in your friendship.