Secrets to Long-lasting Friendship


The memories of the good old day days came flooding back as I stepped in the gates of my Alma mater.  This place has witnessed blissful moments of my wonderful high school life, stories weaved together and are now written on the walls that I tried to relive in my mind thousand times, wishing to move back the hands of time bringing it back to life.

As I paced through the long, narrow pathway of a now old school, I noticed its very different now. I started to marvel the new image of my alma mater, trying to capture the changes that were made. Once there were fewer buildings and more trees but now there are more buildings and fewer trees. The rooms of different clubs and orgs were no longer on its original place-and the Newsroom that was once our home underwent a repair. It’s true indeed that change is the only thing constant in this world.

In this same small village school, I met my best friend. We were inseparable back then; savoring the moment of our youth, doing what we love to do and following our heart’s desire, dreaming of a brighter future where impossibility was just an unknown word. We’re partners in crime doing our crazy adventures. We’re each other’s no. 1 loyal supporter in our every endeavor. But as all good things must come to an end, the joy we had was only short lived when life confronted us of its harsh reality. We were forced to take our separate ways to follow our dreams. She wants to be a dentist, while I was firm to pursue my passion to be a soon Media practitioner. After taking one last glimpse, I left. For me, it was time to move on.

A decade had passed.  People just come and go, but once in a while, you meet someone who will be with you for life. She is a precious gem I’m glad I found.  A treasure I wouldn’t trade for anything or anyone. We stand the test of time, were miles apart but our friendship remains. Let me share the secret to long lasting friendship:

1. Allow your friend to explore the world

As you grow older you realized how small place you occupy in this world. Allow each other to discover endless possibilities and be expose in a bigger and tougher world outside the comfortable world you created. Don’t put your friend in a box for your own comfort and liking. Be happy for what ever path your friend has chosen.

2. Help each other to reach your fullest potential

Be joyful as your friend achieve great milestone. Continuously push your friend to his/her next level. Don’t let your friend live a life of a mediocrity. But you will constantly remind each other of the potential that needs to be awaken inside of you. Your friend’s success is also your success.

3. Understand that you can’t always be together

Your friend will not always be with you, there will come a time that friends move away because of family decision, job opportunities, school matter, and other reasons but that does not mean the friendship has to end. Different communication platforms were made to keep relationship open. This can still make the friendship meaningful and long lasting. And its not just about the quantity of time you spend together but more of the quality.

4. Be dependable and trustworthy

Everyone of us need a reliable friend in whom we can confide in, trust, and share some of the most personal details and needs of our lives. Be someone your friend can rely on, someone who will always be there in whatever season of life. Be the friend that you want to have.

5. Give each other ‘me time’

We all need our space from time to time. We need ‘me time’ to think and to examine one’s life. The time spent away from one another can help you to appreciate your friendship and the time you spend with one another. Space is important so you won’t get and over familiar with each other’s presence to the point that you take each other for granted.

6. Acknowledge that no relationship is perfect

If you want to have long lasting friendships be flexible and forgiving. Understand that no person or relationship is perfect. There will be times that you will feel disappointed because of unmet expectation, days that you feel like your friend is not doing the same effort as you do. It’s only part of your friendship journey. Its only give and take, forgive and forget.

7. Respect each other’s  differences

There’s beauty in diversity. My best friend is my complete opposite, we’re like water and oil, black and white, east and west but it doesn’t mean we don’t get along well. In fact, we compliment each other and our difference keep us together.

8. Make time for each other

Strive to be in your friend’s special moments for it only happen once  a year. Always be willing to make small sacrifices in your schedule. These small sacrifices help cement a stronger foundation in your friendship.


9 thoughts on “Secrets to Long-lasting Friendship

  1. Sony Fugaban says:

    The last struck me the most. The other “secrets” are well noted.

    I’m aware that this article goes for relationships in general so my take comes from my status as a married man.

    My wife, my wonderwall, and I always spend time together–a date–without the kids each time I’m on vacation. This is my way of letting her feel she is still like a “miss” to me. I wanted here to remember that we are still lovers without kids at times. Thank God my mother-in-law is with us in this belief.

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