Samson’s Sweetest Downfall

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With men hidden in the room, she called to him, “Samson, the Philistines are upon you!” But he snapped the bowstrings as easily as a piece of string snaps when it comes close to a flame. So the secret of his strength was not discovered.

-Judges 16:9

Lust was Samson’s downfall. And his affair with Delilah was his greatest debacle. Samson, a man who possessed mighty strenght and was chosen by God to deliver the Israelite people from Philistines was ruined. Though married, he visited prostitues and met Delilah. He fell inlove with her, lowered his standards, defiled customary tradition and let lust consume his life. Little did he know that she was just a temptress hired by the enemy to find out the reason for his mighty strenght. Delilah did her job well, whining and nagging until he gave in, revealing the secrets for his strength ultimately cost him his life and honor. Lessons we can learn from the life of Samson:

1. Take heed of you parent’s advice
His father and mother replied, “Isn’t there an acceptable woman among your relatives or among all our people? Must you go to the uncircumcised Philistines to get a wife?” But Samson said to his father, “Get her for me. She’s the right one for me.” -Judges 14:3

Listen and pay attention to your parent’s advice. Dont forsake them, they are guide to your path. God placed authorities and people in your life to lead you into making wise and best decisions in your life that you wont regret. Take heed of their words, its wisdom from their experiences and past failures and victories. Dont neglect their instructions, dont turn your deaf ear to them, but in humility and great honor consider them knowing they only desire what’s best for you.

2. Emotions can’t be trusted
Burning with anger, he returned to his father’s home. And Samson’s wife was given to one of his companions who had attended him at the feast. -Judges 14:19-20

One moment Samson was so convinced that he wants this Philistine woman to be his wife, but the next he despise her.  His feelings suddenly changed and gave her to his companion because of extreme anger. This only proved that emotions can change from one minute to the next, so you can’t fully trust them and rely on them. Theres no guarantee that what you feel right now for the person will be the same for the next days, months or years to come. Thats why it is important that you submit your emotions and thoughts to God. Dont conform to the patterns of this world. Seek to know God’s good, pleasing and perfect will.

3. Beware not to cross the enemy’s border
One day Samson went to Gaza, where he saw a prostitute.He went in to spend the night with her. -Judges 16:1

Dont dare cross the enemy’s border. It’s a place where you can see things that are pleasurable and tempting to the eyes. You’ll be vulnerable for attacks and you’ll put yourself in defenseless position. One thing leads to another. If you fully know yourself well, you know your weak spot and the areas you need to guard yourself on. If you cant stand it dont even come closer, dont even dare to think about it. Dont give a small chance for any works of darkness in your life.

4. Don’t Stay too close to temptation
With such nagging she [Delilah] prodded him day after day until he was sick to death of it. -Judges 16:16

If you think you’re standing firm be careful that you dont fall. Dont test your limits neither your tolerance to temptation. When you stay longer in tempting situations, the more likely you are to give in. When you stay in a position when your convictions are being challenged, you are likely to compromise. The consequences of disobedience are devastating. Dont allow anyone no matter how convincing or attractive, to entice you into doing something you know is wrong.

5. Always try to bounce back
Then Samson prayed to theLord, “Sovereign Lord, remember me. Please, God, strengthen me just once more, and let me with one blow get revenge on the Philistines for my two eyes. -Judges 16:28

The story of Samson was one of the saddest stories in the bible. He had a supernatural birth, a mighty strength and a great task from God. He was destined for greatness not until he showed cracks on his character and became defeated by his own weakness that caused his downfall. He didnt realized that his mighty strength doesnt from his own or from his long hair but from the presence of God in his life because of his obedience. When God left him, he lost his strength. But for the last time, he prayed to God for strength to do what he had been chosen to do. And God heard his prayer. In pushing down the pillars of the temple he killed many more when he died than while he lived.

This post is part of of my 90 Days Challenge devotion to soak myself in the word and presence of God. This is just Day 6! Thanks for reading! 

Flowers and Chocolates

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Millions of fresh, fragrant flowers bloom to give smile on a girl’s face this season. Tons of bitter, sweet chocolates that can surely melt a woman’s heart were made to capture her love. To that purpose flowers and chocolates were made.

It’s true indeed that every girl loves flower and chocolates. Well, who doesn’t want a box of chocolate and bouquet of flower that come from a man’s heart? It’s every girl’s fantasy since they were little and woman’s dream come true when they’re old–to receive a thoughtful gift from the man they love or perhaps from someone they like. I will only be fooling myself if I say I don’t. But I’ve been asking myself this question ‘Is it okay to receive fancy gifts from the man who doesn’t stand a chance in your heart?’

That question started to linger in my mind, when one of my guy friends asked me for my address because he wants to send gift for me in Valentines’ Day which I nicely declined.

We’ve been friends for quite some time now. We always talk every night because I teach him business English relevant to his job and promotion. From just a stranger our knowledge towards each other grew deeper and our relationship as friends grew stronger with each passing day. He is totally aware of my standard when it comes to love and relationships. He fully understands the boundary I created to guard my heart and likewise I guard his heart.

Though I know my refusal may disappoint him, I stood on my ground and say no. Though the intention is pure as per him I don’t want to take advantage of his kindness and generous offer. I can’t offer him anything than friendship. People may think differently but I just don’t want to mislead him into something that will never happen in the future. And by the end of our conversation, I persuaded him to give it to the woman who already owns his heart which I believed made him came back to his senses.  I believe that those flowers and chocolates had served its purpose.

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Hey! Just to set your expectation, ‘most’ of my posts will be all about love for the whole month of Feb-ibig. It’s just the middle of February. Lets continue to enjoy the love month! Share the joy, spread the love ❤

Right love at the wrong time

When love comes unexpectedly with no warning signs, flashing lights or siren sound. Men I met in different time and space in my search for one true love. This is my journey of love, just a chapter in one of my life’s beautiful season. Enjoy reading! Happy hearts day everyone!

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Everyone of us is in search of true love. We all embark on a journey to find our happily ever after. Among the billions of people in the world we want to know whose heart perfectly fits ours. In finding the person God designed for you, love and time should coincide. You don’t need to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince. You don’t also need to say ‘yes’ to every man you meet just to make sure that you don’t miss your chance to meet your Mr. Right. Timing in love is everything. Right love at the wrong time is wrong love.

There’s a right time for everything and a season for every activity  under heaven. As a farmer wait patiently for the spring season, we can’t rush love like a fruit picked green or flower plucked before it blossoms. Our attempt to rush things can ruin its potential. Each season…

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Speechless

It’s been two months since we last talked to each other and that was before he flew to Germany for his escapades. And now his back. I was not excited to talk to him again at all. In fact, I wish I never will.

He is the kind of person not so enjoyable to talk with,  he is a man of few words, very serious and straight to the point. He doesn’t have any mark of humor on his personality. Smiling seems like a boring chore for him. Perhaps its because he is a high achiever and he doesn’t seem interested to share a heartfelt conversation to someone his not close with-and I belong to that category “we’re not close”. Every time I talk to him I always wish for the time to end.

My dreaded day has finally arrived where I need to confront my fear and talk to him again. Our conversation was still the same, it started with the simple routine of exchanging ‘hi’, ‘hello” and ‘how are you?’. The same awkwardness in the atmosphere when we ran out of words to say. I still did a good job pretending, hiding the nervousness I feel inside, trying so hard to maintain my composure and sound professional. Everything runs smoothly not until he asked me the question that never in my dreams I imagined he would ask before we said goodbyes.

“Could you give me your love?” he asked.

“Wh.. Wha.. What.. What did you say?” I asked very surprised. I just want to make sure my ears are not fooling me. I cant believe what his saying.

“I said could you give me your love?” he repeated.

It took me few seconds to respond because I couldn’t process the information in my mind. I was speechless and dumbfounded. What’s wrong with him I asked to myself why his acting so weird? I tried not to be so assuming and think that maybe his referring to other things and not the direct interpretation of what he really meant since English is not his first language.

“Oh sure. I’ll try to send you pictures of hearts that symbolizes my love.” I answered coolly, hiding the tension that unexpected question brought me, then bade ‘sayonara’. I didn’t dare to asked what he mean by what he said nor wish to prolong the conversation because I’m not sure where it will end and my mind cant even process the answer to his question. I just resolved to make myself believe that I didn’t hear what he said. I tried to erase the question that still echoes on my mind.

I must admit I felt million butterflies in my stomach. It felt like the whole world stop and stare for a while just like the scene in the movie.  But what I was thinking? He is someone way out of my league. Well, I just tried to brush off the thought and just blamed the ‘kilig’ because its love month and Valentine’s Day is just around the corner.  Heart can really be so deceiving at times..

 

6 Reasons Why I Kissed Dating Goodbye

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Love is in the air this love month! I can see lovers everywhere, couples that look like match made in heaven, holding hands while walking, or being so lovey-dovey on the street publicly displaying their affection, showing the world how madly, deeply inlove they are to each other. Making the single girls out there feel one less lonely girl.

Valentine’s Day, the most romantic holiday of the year is just around the corner! Display of hearts and cupids in malls, shops and restaurants reminded people of this love season. Teddy bears, flowers, chocolates and other romantic gifts on the store entice people to rush out and pick up something that will show their affection to their ‘valentine’.

Amidst all that, I know dating and being in a relationship can be sweet and exciting, but for the time being I resolved to kissed dating goodbye! Here’s the reason why:

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1. I’m not yet ready for commitmenti11.jpg

2. It’s not yet the proper time

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3. I know love is more than just an emotion.

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4. I dont want to mistaken physical attraction to love

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5. I would like to fully understand what True Love is

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6. I don’t want to ruin a wonderful plan

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This post is still part of my three day quote challenge. And all the quotes here are from the book I Kissed Dating Goodbye by Joshua Harris in which he explains what he believes to be the biblical approach to dating and relationships. I just really love this book! It is my awesome guide in dating and relationship.

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For this Challenge, the rules are:

  1.  Post three consecutive days.
  2.  You can pick one or three quotes per day.
  3.  Challenge three different bloggers per day

My 2nd day nominees are:

  1. coldchickensoup
  2. richgenerousandhappy
  3. angmamangenhinyero

Tracing My Root: An Untold Story

He is known to some as a carefree man, a hardworking and dedicated person in workplace. He is a kind of friend that will stick closer than a brother. His friendly aura and amusing personality never fails to make his ‘kumpare’ and ‘amigo’ laugh with his silly jokes, witty retorts and funny stories but I was left wondering why I never heard him talk about his childhood. It was like a part of him that he just wanted to forget forever, a part of him that he just wanted to bury.

Going Back to Where it All Started

Going back to my parents’ hometown “Aklan” would perhaps feed my curiosity and answer my long been overdue questions of my father’s untold story, words that were supposed to be told long ago but were left unspoken.

His neighbors said that a bright and beautiful future awaits him before he was born. His father was a known politician and a rich haciendero in their barangay; his mother though didn’t study college and poor was a very attractive and fine looking woman. They were madly in love with each other and a night of passion brought forth my father’s existence. She got pregnant out of wedlock. But a twist of fate happened.

A Tale of Two Lovers

His father was also pregnant with another woman. A promise of forever was not only kept to one woman but to two. But only one has the right for his name and his heart. His father though loves her mother more based on hearsay married the other out of convenience and guilt because she threatened to kill herself. That made my father an illegitimate child.

Two lives set apart by a decision, a fate that was sealed and no one can alter. One living in abundance while other in scarcity and scrutiny. One is clothed with love and affection while the other lives under other people’s mercy and sympathy. One was raised in a good and positive environment while the other was early exposed in life’s harsh relity.  One has bright and secure future while the other is filled with uncertainty and fear. One has something he calls his home, while the other tries to rebuild what was deprived of him.

For his mother, seeing him is a dark past she didn’t want be revealed. The gloomiest chapter of her life she wished didn’t happen. He is an unwanted child, a mistake she shouldn’t have done.

For his father, perhaps a product of a night of passion with his so called “love of his life” but was soon forgotten. A responsibility he wanted to escape, a son he didn’t care about.

Not repeating the same mistake

He was a victim of his past, but he didn’t allow himself to be a prisoner of it. He married my mom and bore them three children two sons and one daughter (that’s me). Though was a product of broken family, he never, not even once mention about his dark past to his children (I know he has his own reasons why). He strived not to repeat the same mistakes and be a responsible father to us. We grew up in strict discipline and strong value for education. After years of hard work and wearisome labor we all graduated in Universities and got our own job.

Love found in someone else

He is love not by the people who supposed to be overjoyed by his birth but by his many friends and relatives. He is wanted not by the people who are the reason for his existence but by his neighbors and the strangers he met. He is value not by the people who gave him life but by us whose life we owe to him.

Everything happens f or a reason

I tried to imagine different scenarios. How could our lives changed if only his father married his mother and not other woman? He might have experienced a completely different life, far from the tough life he lived when he was young. Is there a chance that he would meet my mother? Would he feel the same way and ask his hand in marriage? If not, would we ever come into existence? Would I be alive right now? Well, my father said that everything is part of an intricate plan. If only one part was changed in his story, I wont be who I am right now. Truly, God has an amazing plan for each one of us long before we were born. “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart; I appointed you as a prophet to the nations. (Jeremiah 29:11)”

A Good Name is Better than  Great Riches

I remembered when I was young my father used to tell me and my brothers that a good name is better than great riches. He instilled in our hearts that we should never put our family name to shame or do anything that would put it in disgrace. But surprisingly I learned that the family name we’re carrying right now was actually his mother’s maiden name and not his father’s name. Well, I guess it is written in my story that I am a born Feliciano and not Mersed.

My father’s dark past has already ended. Gone was the tears, heartache and rejection. It will just remain a story in the past, a part of history that happens for a reason. His new beginning has long been started.

P.S Its been awhile since I last updated my blog. Well, I’m enjoying my stay here in my parents’ hometown AKLAN and internet connection is not very stable. Watch out for my next post that would tell you more about this beautiful place.

When the feeling is gone..

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Is it really possible that a love so beautiful could end up so horrible? I remember what my mom told me when I was still a teenager that once the spark is gone in a relationship there must be something long lasting to take its place.

5 years ago I gave my heart to a man. I know what I felt at that time was real. It was true and pure. But slowly my love changed and diminishes with each passing day. The passion that had been so pervasive in the beginning gradually lessen. The excitement that each new day used to bring becomes just a dull routine. Slowly, I found myself falling out of love.

It’s not Him. Perhaps its me. My heart grew cold. A sheer of familiarity overwhelmed me, a slow growing apart make it even worse, bit by bit I’m taking him for granted. I became too preoccupied with so many things until I slowly found myself longing for other things and not Him.

What my mom said echoed through my ears. Perhaps it was the start. The ‘spark’ was gone, the ‘passion’ fades, my feelings vanished and my heart becomes numb. I asked myself so many times why it should end up this way? I didn’t  imagine that a love so beautiful could really end up so horrible. What I have is not a passionate relationship a wife has to her husband, neither  a romantic love of a girl to his long time boyfriend. Mine is a relationship with God.

I wondered where the spark has gone in our relationship? I was once on a spiritual high with all these spiritual endorphin shooting through my heart and mind, but after some time the high goes away. I felt weary spending time with Him. From a passionate and devoted follower to a lukewarm believer. It didn’t happened overnight. It was gradual, I didn’t wake up one day and just want to call it a quit. It’s the result of my day to day apathetic respond to God.

But I was won back by his perfect love, I was captivated by his relentless grace. His love is so unmoving and unwavering. He remains faithful, though I’m faithless. And most importantly He loves me anyway. If you found yourself on the same situation I once had. Here are the things that you can do to get back to that sweet spot in your relationship with God:

1. Spend time with Him

It doesn’t mean you know Him that you will stop seeking Him. Over familiarity kills any relationships. It is a disease of the heart and a dangerous spirit that must be avoided. The strongest battle is not fought outside but within. Don’t just act and look religious in public, but your attitude and respond to God is hostile and apathetic.

He doesn’t demand much from you. If you can finish a book in one sitting or check your Facebook or other social accounts from time to time. You can also set aside time daily to just be with Him to talk with Him and find out more about Him. Why not Give God what he deserves? “A son honors his father, and a slave his master. If I am a father, where is the honor due me? If I am a master, where is the respect due me?” says the LORD Almighty (Malachi 1:6)

2. Go back to where you started.

When you lost your way, just go back to where you came from and you will surely find your way. Being believer doesn’t mean that you don’t have any single doubt in your mind. Time will come that your faith will be tested. As Jesus was also tested in all points (Matthew 4:1-11) but he overcome because he has “it is written” imprinted in his heart.

Go back to where you started. Back in the day that you first fell in love with Him. You read His Word constantly, you were always talking to Him. You long for his Word.

3. Remind yourself of ‘WHY’

Going back at the foot of the cross will always remind you of your why. That was the first time I fell in love with Him. Not because of guilt but I was so overwhelmed that such ‘love’ can really exist. To this world that is so corrupt and lost He gave all He could give to show us the reason to live  A person unworthy as me, a sinner and hopeless was loved by God. That brought down me to my knees. After years of just existing, I finally found the reason to live.

4. Protect you relationship

The thief comes only to steal, to kill and destroy (John 10:10). Fight a good fight of faith.  Just like how we find special ways to maintain and protect relationships with important people in our lives, we need to be purposeful in protecting our relationship with God. Let no one separate you from the love of God. (Romans 8:38-39)

5. Ask for a new heart

I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit in you; I will remove from you your heart of stone and give you a heart of flesh. (Ezekiel 36:26). We’re the ones whose hearts stray which is why we must continually recommit ourselves to the relationship. We must continually keep repenting of our straying hearts and go back to the God we first loved.